Visitors

Let me start off by saying that I am so lucky my in laws are not over bearing! In fact... I'm so lucky to have my mother in law. Today's post is all about having visitors in your home after having the baby. Specifically the in laws. My husband and I had a conversation a few weeks prior to delivery of when we want people to visit. His family lives out of state and my family lives ten minutes down the road. We knew my parents would visit in the hospital but we didn't know when his parents would fly down. My husband was  very adamant that he wanted them to fly down the day after baby W was born. My thoughts? I just pushed a watermelon out of my hoo-ha. Can I enjoy some family time just the 3 of us??? However, I would never ever tell my husband that his parents couldn't come down immediately. My parents were there...isn't it only fair that his be there too? 

Well- I finally got the nerves to tell my husband I want a few days of just us. That also meant my parents weren't allowed to come over either. Guess what... He completely understood. He said that I was the one who was in pain so I got to make that choice. So how did we tell his mom not jump on the first flight? Simple...we asked. We said to her that we wanted some time just the 3 of us. We also wanted to make sure I was out of the hospital so she's not sitting in the hospital all day OR waiting in the house for us to come home. Good thing we did this too because I was in the hospital for four days! I had a traumatic birth and my body needed major repairs. My best friend Ana said "I'm under construction." It was a nice way to put it... I think.

 My mother in law ended up coming in 6 days after he was born. I was so lucky to have her. In the hospital, I slept for a total of ten hours over four days. The first night Baby W was home, I think Wes and I slept for 2 hours in total. We would trade off and on of who would get an extra hour of sleep. When his mom came down, she took baby W and said Ronnie- go to sleep. I got a solid four hours of sleep. She not only let me sleep but she cooked me dinner, did the laundry, and she helped me in and out of the bathroom when needed. (Did I tell you that I had a really traumatic birth???) was I worried about her being over bearing? Nah- not really because she's so easy going anyways. However, I am very big on that I never ever ever ever want people to see me at my worse. Even if I feel terrible- I will try to put on a brave face. I didn't want her seeing my weak side.[not that she would even care] I didn't want her seeing me in pain. Did she end up seeing me in pain? Duh- I popped a kid out 6 days prior. Did I let my pain and my vain stop her from seeing her grandchild? Would I change anything? Probably not. I enjoyed the time that baby W, Wesley and I had together for the first few days. He needed to get to know us and we needed to get to know him. What would I do next time? Probably the exact same thing... 

What would you do if your mother in law asked you? Would you let her come the next day? The next week? The next month? By no means am I anywhere close to knowing what is right and what is wrong. I just knew what was right when it came time for my family.